When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.
"Say, Pooh, why aren’t you busy?” I said.
"Because it’s a nice day," said Pooh.
"Why ruin it?" he said.
"But you could be doing something Important," I said.
"I am," said Pooh.
"Oh? Doing what?"
"Listening," he said.
"Listening to what?"
"To the birds. And that squirrel over there."
"What are they saying?" I asked.
"That it’s a nice day," said Pooh.
"But you know that already," I said.
"Yes, but it’s always good to hear that somebody else thinks so, too," he replied…
- The Tao of Pooh, Benjamin Hoff